Sunday, August 8, 2010

Feelings

Well, I still can't say much for my digestive system...something is seriously infecting it and just when I think I may have gotten rid of it, it hits me again and again. I was very sick last night, but I feel great this morning. I really think my mood will improve greatly once the morning sickness subsides for good.

I spoke with my IF this morning and he decided not to come to the first OB appointment which actually made me really happy. I just have so many things I need to speak with the OB about that I'd rather do in private, that this is the most comfortable route for me - I think he understands that now. We will speak again later, I hope that I didn't accidentally hurt his feelings or make him feel like he was unwelcome to come to the appointment, but we'll get it sorted out. I'm hoping to find out from the doctor what would be some key appointments that might be a bit more exciting for him/them to come to. If anyone has any suggestions, please feel free to leave a comment.

I think my IF has resigned to the fact that he can't/doesn't have control over everything that happens from here on out. I just hope he trusts me enough to make that okay because we still have a long way to go!

Today, I feel better about everything and I hope that is just a sign of things to come. Also, I'm glad summer is almost over as I think the transition into fall will also make things a bit easier!

4 comments:

Mommy with Many Gifts said...

Routine OB appointments can be very uncomfortable sometimes, especially when there are other people in the room. I made the mistake and never said anything about that... then I always left the doctor's office with a million unanswered questions because they were too personal to ask in front of my IP's. Sometimes I ended up having to call my doctor later and asking. It just gets frustrating because you know the parent/parents should have every right to be there for their babies, but on the other hand, it is your body going through everything and you need your privacy.

I was in L&D the other day, monitoring contractions, and I really wasn't comfortable with the IP's being in the room. Heck, I had doctors and nurses coming in and out of the room, checking here and there!! I had to be honest and told the IP's to wait outside because I wasn't comfortable. I hope they understood.

So, don't be hesitant to speak your mind and maybe try to explain what you feel makes you most comfortable. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

MrsKnight said...

I don't know. I think it's nice of the IF to consider your need for privacy, but I'm not sure it's right to ask for privacy. It IS his baby.

This is the nice thing about an international match though. I have a lot more independence than if my IPs were nearby.

The only aspect of my OB appointments that would be uncomfortable for me to share would have been the vaginal ultrasounds of the 1st trimester, and the cervical exams in the end. And I'm glad that this doesn't have to be an issue for me, due to distance. There will still be the ackwardness of labor and birth (which I would prefer to have private), but, again, I don't feel it would be right to ask them not to be there for the birth of their children.

Amy Rae said...

I completely understand where you're coming from. My last OB appointment at 20 weeks, was the first I'd been to without my IP's. It was wonderful! I feel guilty posting that but it's true. I just felt more at ease and able to ask whatever was on my mind.

leikay2 said...

Dr. B is GREAT at those things. My guys would come to my visits, not all but a few and they would always wait outside the room while I talked to Dr. B, and Dr. B would also ask if there were any questions I wanted to ask him alone.. I will say that the the 13 week scan, and the 20 week scan are the big ones. I am sure you will LOVE Dr. B!!